This or That Questions for Couples

Quick picks on dates, travel, and home life. Guess your partner's answer, then see if you matched.

Shared Playlist or Separate Playlists?

These 69 this or that questions for couples make an easy date night game. Movie night or dinner out. Beach vacation or city trip. Big wedding or small ceremony. Make breakfast together or sleep in. Each pair is quick, but together they paint a surprisingly detailed picture of what you both want, from your ideal Saturday to your dream vacation.

Play it as a matching game: both partners pick at the same time and count how many answers line up. New couples use it to learn the basics, while longtime partners are often surprised by an answer or two. Everything is sweet and clean, so it also works on a double date or at a couples' game night with friends.

How to play

  1. Both partners look at the same pair.
  2. On three, say your answer out loud together.
  3. Score a point every time you match.
  4. Check how other couples voted, then go to the next pair.

All 69 This or That Questions for Couples

  1. Shared Playlist or Separate Playlists?
  2. Big Wedding or Small Wedding?
  3. Revisit First Date Spot or Try Somewhere New?
  4. Surprise Flowers or Surprise Breakfast?
  5. Surprise Trip or Planned Trip?
  6. Share Dessert or Own Desserts?
  7. Chore Chart or Chore Swap?
  8. Slow Dance or Karaoke Duet?
  9. Concert Date or Comedy Show Date?
  10. Sunset Beach Walk or Snowy Cabin Night?
  11. Farmers Market Date or Flea Market Date?
  12. Stay In or Go Out?
  13. Talk It Out Now or Sleep On It?
  14. Sweet Texts or Phone Calls?
  15. Fancy Restaurant or Food Truck Date?
  16. Big Birthday Plans or Low-Key Birthdays?
  17. Hot Air Balloon Ride or Horse Carriage Ride?
  18. Split the Bill or Take Turns Paying?
  19. Long Walks or Long Drives?
  20. Morning Coffee Together or Evening Walk Together?
  21. Say It or Show It?
  22. Photo Booth or Professional Photos?
  23. Share Fries or Separate Fries?
  24. Pick the Movie or Pick the Snacks?
  25. Hold Hands or Link Arms?
  26. Window Open or Window Closed?
  27. One Big Blanket or Two Blankets?
  28. Big Spoon or Little Spoon?
  29. Love at First Sight or Slow Burn?
  30. Same Hobbies or Different Hobbies?
  31. Dance Class or Cooking Class?
  32. Kiss Goodbye or Hug Goodbye?
  33. Watch the Sunrise or Go Stargazing?
  34. Cozy Nights In or Late Nights Out?
  35. Mini Golf Date or Bowling Date?
  36. Handwritten Card or Store-Bought Card?
  37. Holidays With Your Family or Holidays With Theirs?
  38. Flowers or Chocolates?
  39. Plan the Date or Be Surprised?
  40. Anniversary Dinner or Anniversary Getaway?
  41. Dinner Date or Movie Date?
  42. Serenade or Poem?
  43. Road Trip for Two or Beach Getaway for Two?
  44. Blanket Hog or Pillow Hog?
  45. Aquarium Date or Museum Date?
  46. Cuddle Movie Night or Board Game Date?
  47. Beach Honeymoon or Adventure Honeymoon?
  48. Breakfast in Bed or Candlelit Dinner?
  49. Surprise Party or Quiet Celebration?
  50. Love Songs or Inside Jokes?
  51. Share a Closet or Separate Closets?
  52. Cabin Weekend or City Weekend?
  53. Picnic in the Park or Rooftop Dinner?
  54. Couple Selfies or Candid Photos?
  55. Ice Skating Date or Roller Skating Date?
  56. Dinner Reservations or Spontaneous Dinner?
  57. Movie Marathon or Series Binge Together?
  58. Playlist for Them or Scrapbook for Them?
  59. Matching Pajamas or Matching Sweaters?
  60. Coffee Date or Ice Cream Date?
  61. Pottery Class or Painting Class?
  62. Love Note in Lunch Bag or Love Note on Mirror?
  63. Pet Names or Real Names?
  64. Same Side of Booth or Opposite Sides of Booth?
  65. Love Letters or Surprise Gifts?
  66. Road Trip Driver or Road Trip DJ?
  67. Couples Game Night or Double Date?
  68. Cook Together or Order Takeout?
  69. Morning Cuddles or Late Night Talks?

Questions people ask

Is this good for a first date?

It can be. The pairs are light and easy to answer, which takes the pressure off a first conversation. You'll quickly learn things like travel style and food preferences, and a mismatch is usually more funny than awkward.

How do we turn this into a game?

Answer each pair at the same time and count your matches. Twenty pairs make a good round. You can also try guessing your partner's answer before they give it, which is a fun way to test how well you know each other.

Are the couples questions clean?

Yes, they're sweet and PG. Topics include dates, travel, food, home life, and future plans. There's nothing intimate here, so you can comfortably play in front of friends or family.

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